I challenge you to a dare: The love dare.
Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, being indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated by your life of holy beauty. What matters is not your outer appearance - the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes - but your inner disposition.
Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in. ( from 1 Peter 3 - The Message, a paraphrase of the bible)
Have you seen the hit movie Fireproof (FireprooftheMovie.com)yet? If you haven't, rush out and buy it. It is a wonderful marriage enrichment tool, whether you are going through tough times of not. If you aren't married, but hope to be one day, it is a lesson in how to make a marriage work.
The plot is about a young couple who are facing divorce, but then the husband's father challenges him to the Love Dare - 40 days of demonstrating unconditional love. This he does without his wife's knowlege and often with very little reward. Once the husband finds the Lord, his motivation for doing the dare changes. He starts to practise these biblical principals with no agenda other than love and his marriage is restored, and his wife too comes to know the Lord.
The Love Dare in the movie is presented as a book of handwritten dares from the husband's father. Now it has become a movement and the book by that title 'The Love Dare' by Stephen Kendrick & Alex Kendrick, a spin off from the movie, leads husbands and wives through the 40 days of the love dare journey.
Well now I am secretly (to my husband) taking the dare - demonstrating my love for my husband of 21 years and learning a better way to be a wife. At the moment I am on Day 6 - so it is early days yet, but so far I have seen my husband looking less stressed, and definately loved! Last night, sitting comfortably in front of the fire he told me that I am very thoughtful, that I don't complain about things amongst other things. I wonder if he would have said that before the dare. I am learning to put him first, to find ways to show him I care a great deal for him and I am watching my reactions and words. I know that at times I have spoken words hastily. Now I try not to say anything negative. I'm finding that most things that upset me quickly really don't matter tomorrow, and so I don't address them. I keep quiet. The best side to this is that I have noticed that the little things that I do that niggle at my husband (for instance - he is a neat freak, I am a clutter bug) have become unimportant to him, and he has said so, because in the scheme of things I am doing what he wants the most - and that is loving him unconditionally.